The alternative title for this post is “7 Things I’m Truly Terrible At”. However, since I have accepted these so-called flaws, I like to present them as things I’m not built for. My inability to do these things does not make me “less than”. It just means my skills and attention are better dedicated somewhere else. As such, if you come away from this post with one thing, I hope you look at your “pitfalls” as things you are just not built for – not negative aspects that detract from the wonderful person you are.
On to the fun!
Baking – The chemical science of baking doesn’t click in my brain. I don’t have the patience for sifting flour or making sure I’ve used the exact measurement of baking soda. Also, learning the difference between baking soda and powder was a game-changer for me. I much prefer the fluidity of cooking meals with recipes that can be changed without considering much science of chemical balance. My best friend (who is an amazing baker) and I once attempted to replicate a bread recipe from one of our favorite restaurants. The experiment failed miserably and the result resembled a gray brain mass more than a loaf of bread. While we never figured out precisely where we went wrong, I believe it was my mere presence in the kitchen that caused the attempt to go awry. For the record, we still ate the brain-bread. It tasted just fine – but it was dense. Very dense.
Keeping In Touch – Social media was made for me. I am terrible at keeping in touch with people. I don’t really like talking on the phone and like FaceTime even less. I may forget to text people back even after reading and considering their messages. I’m notorious for neglecting voice mails. Much of this I can attribute to my profession. I spend a significant amount of my time corresponding with people throughout my day. When I get home, I just don’t want to talk. I want to shut down and give myself a break. Don’t take it personally. I talk to my mom almost daily, always calling her as I’m leaving the office to chat over my commute home. If she doesn’t answer for whatever reason and tries to call me back after I’ve walked through my front door, I’m not answering. Not a chance. I’m in decompression mode and we’ll just have to catch up tomorrow. I value my personal time almost to a fault. In this respect, seeing my friends’ lives unfold on Facebook and Instagram has basically given me a short cut to keep up on their lives while expending minimum effort. It’s selfish – I know. But this doesn’t mean I don’t care about my friends. One of my friend’s 8-year-old daughter regularly writes articles for local publications in Ohio and I read every single one. Another friend is off charging a career as a public figure. I watch every interview he does and read every article he writes. I may not call them up to say, “Hey there! How’s the family?!” But through social media, I can stay peripherally engaged. Plus they all still get Christmas cards. That’s something, right?
Competition – If you are a competitive person, for the love of god, never have me on your team. I know I’m really good at history and pop culture trivia, but I will seriously ruin your game. I am the least competitive person in the world. I’m known to give a hint or two to opposing teams during trivia games. I give extra points to people who are falling too far behind in games. I will even scoot your game piece forward a few blocks when everyone isn’t looking to keep everyone enjoying the game. I don’t understand being competitive with other people. (With myself – it’s a totally different story). Games are meant to be enjoyed and competitiveness ruins it for everyone. *Note: I will most certainly change my tune when my kids play sports. Everyone must lose and my child will be the best!
Horticulture – My home is where plants go to die. The only reason I have anything growing in my garden right now is that San Diego has had an unusual amount of rainfall this year. I am a neglectful plant parent. Truly the worst.
Ambiguous Plans – This is starkly different than being spontaneous. I can be spontaneous and fun. What I can’t do is make ambiguous plans. If we’re getting together for plans, there has to be some form of a game plan. There are few people in this world that I can just “hang out” with. Don’t be offended if you aren’t one of them. It’s not personal. If we’re meeting for dinner, let’s figure out where we’re going before I have to get dressed to go. If we are making plans for a day of shopping, let’s have a goal of what we’re looking for and/or what stores we’re going to. Inviting me over for dinner? Give me a specific time you want me to be there. I do better in life with some idea of what to expect in my plans.
Faking Enthusiasm – I am one of the easiest people in the world to read. I am also one of the most authentic people you will meet. You always know where I stand. I will always tell you how I feel. Some would say it’s a fault and a virtue. Unfortunately, this also means I can’t fake enthusiasm when social convention would expect me to. I’m not much into other people’s babies. So when people bring their newborns into the office, I don’t immediately jump up from my seat to go ooh and ahh over the little bundle of joy. I won’t get giddy over your bridal or baby shower gifts. I’m not much into weddings as a whole so I won’t ask about all your plans, the flowers, your ring, your dress – not into it. I can’t bring myself to get overly hyped up for a work social event. These are just things that live inside me but also moments when my missing enthusiasm is noted. I come by enthusiasm naturally for many, many things but when it doesn’t come… eh. It is what it is. I will always be polite. But there’s a difference between having good manners and being enthusiastic.
Being Graceful – I have spent most of my life covered in bruises from running into things. I don’t fall and have disastrous moments. Nothing dramatic like that. But I consistently run into the same countertop corner, leaving a deep bruise on my hip. I trip over my computer cord daily, even though it never moves. The other day, I closed a door on my forehead. My forehead! Yes, this really happened. I try to be graceful. I try to tap into my inner lady and watch out for sharp corners. But unfortunately, as I’m whisking about the house like a 2017 Donna Reed, I will inevitably ram my elbow into a door frame. It’s just who I am.
I was thinking this week about the movies I own and how many of them I’ve watched more than one time. First, yes, I still buy dvds/Blu-rays and digital copies of movies. I like being able to download the movies to watch on planes or popping in a dvd without relying on my internet speeds to enjoy them.
So back to my collection of movies, I’ve seen most of the movies in my collection more than once, but admittedly, there are a number where I worry about how much more abuse the disc can take. I mean, I once played Mean Girls on repeat for an entire weekend. Yes, an entire weekend. Why? Because it’s funny – that’s why. And this isn’t the only movie I do this with… here are my top 7 movies I can watch repeatedly (in no particular order):
Mean Girls : This Tina Fey production about how horrible girls are to each other is comedy gold and so fetch. It is Lindsay Lohan at her best and one of the few movies where you can hate the villain and still want to be her friend.
Pride and Prejudice : The 2005 version – because I love Kiera Knightley. The music is calming. The characters are like old friends. And this movie always reinspires me to improve my mind by extensive reading.
Blue Crush : If you’ve read my post about taking surf lessons, you know how much I love this movie. It’s campy, cheesy, and a gem from my teen years.
Disney’s Peter Pan : This tale of Neverland and adventure will always be one of my favorites. Everyone has their favorite Disney movie and this one is mine.
Mona Lisa Smile : A sociological film about college women in the 1950’s could only be made powerful by this incredibly talented cast. If you haven’t seen it, you need to. This movie addresses the changing role of women in post-war America by following the paths numerous women choose in their personal, educational, and professional lives. Plus, the soundtrack is amaaaazing. Truly.
Star Wars – Episode VI: Return of the Jedi : Whenever I find myself in need of some galactic adventure, I turn to Episode VI. If you’re not a Star Wars fan, then … it was nice knowing you (I’m kidding). If you are a Star Wars fan, no, I don’t want to debate which movie is the best in the series. Calm down.
Legally Blonde : If ever I need motivation – to workout, to clean the house, to be productive, generally to get through life – Elle Woods gives me a kick of girl power in the pants to take over the world. The character arc of this sparkly and pink woman is so ridiculous yet so inspiring. Talk about beating down impostor syndrome and rising to the challenge! And sometimes I just need reminding that all I require to get through life is passion, courage of conviction, and a strong sense of self. Sigh – thanks, Elle.
Happy Sunday! This morning, I’m listening to country music as I make my way through my Sunday List, contemplating where I want to travel to next. My wanderlust alternates between big international expeditions to local road trips. Recently, I’ve had the U.S. travel bug, feeling the urge to cross more off my homeland wish list. Below are my top 7 locations to visit in the good ol’ US of A. If you have any travel tips for the places below, please share! I’m always collecting recommendations!
Portland, Oregon – Aside from wanting to see Oregon’s beauty in person, I’ve always wanted to visited Powell’s Books, the world’s largest independent bookstore. Additionally, I recently came across DIY Bar, which is a craft studio and bar in one, aka my dream come true.
Redwood National Park, California – Not only do I want to stand among the tallest trees on Earth, I would love to do tent camping and hiking through this beautiful natural landscape. Redwood National Park has always been on my to-see list strictly for the gorgeous dense forest views.
Charleston, South Carolina – I honestly don’t feel like I need to explain this one. From the classic Southern architecture and cuisine to the beach accessibility, I feel like Charleston is a town I may not want to come home from.
New York City, New York – Aside from the desire to live out my Eloise and Kevin McAllister dreams, New York has such a huge draw for me from a cultural perspective. I’d love to see the Statue of Liberty and Central Park. I want to go to a Broadway show and visit the MET. There’s so much I’ve read about in books or have seen in movies that I want to experience.
Denver, Colorado – A number of my friends moved to Denver after college and loved the experience. Alternatively, my experience in the city has been limited to standing on the tarmac at Denver International Airport in 4*F weather. I’d love to get out and explore this growing city.
Boston, Massachusetts – As an American History enthusiast, this should come as a surprise no one. However, I have never been to Boston. The Freedom Trail would be a dream come true for me to walk. I need to see the Old State House and Boston Common. I need to go back to where the heartbeat of the American Revolution started to pound.
Maine – Yes, the whole state. I’m kidding – but I’ve seen so many beautiful pictures from Maine, I feel like I need to go, preferably in the fall. I would love to be there as the color of the leaves begin to change and the air is crisp. If you have a specific town that you recommend, please let me know.
Now please excuse me while I go look at plane ticket prices…
Magazines are a life source for me. While I can truly find anything I need on Pinterest, there’s something about the carefully considered layouts, the editorial messages, and let’s be frank, the glossiness of the pages. There’s so much joy for me flipping through the pages, criticizing fashions I would never dream of wearing and getting lost in meaningful essays by contributors. I subscribe to eleven magazines – yes, eleven. I’m telling you, I’m a junky. But below are the seven magazines I read cover to cover every month.
Vanity Fair – I live for Graydon Carter’s editorials in every month’s edition and the articles are thoughtful pieces of real journalism.
Real Simple – This magazine has been on my must-read list since I first picked it up in 2004. If you need practical life tips and recipes, this is perfect for you.
Women’s Health – For all of my fitness and health needs, I turn to Women’s Health.
Martha Stewart Living – No one does it like Martha. I find to her magazine to be truly aspirational for me.
Marie Claire – A girl likes her girly stuff. Enough said.
Coastal Living – The number of quality articles about historical coastal topics and modern travel essays are worth every dollar of the subscription fee.
HGTV – Holding this magazine is like taking every amazing show on the network and smashing it into one amazing periodical. Practical, realistic, and… beautiful. This magazine is beautiful.
Because I feel like I’m neglecting them, I also receive: Elle, Vogue, InStyle, and Family Circle.
Independence Day has a special place in my heart. The American Revolution was the core area of focus of my bachelors degree and is a passion that has continued post-collegiate studies. I’m so enamored by the romance of the time. People giving passionate, eloquent speeches about liberty and unalienable rights – ugh! I just gets me! Some of my favorite movies and tv shows center around this time (have you seen Turn?!) I eat up books and articles on the subject (always accepting recommendations). As a result, I love celebrating this amazing act of treason every year. Today, in honor of this glorious day, I’m sharing with you 7 fun Independence Day facts.Read More »
Summer is upon us! Finally! I absolutely love summer. There are so many wonderful things about the season, but below are my top 7 favorite things about summer.
Warmer Weather. I am not a fan of cold weather so when the sun starts to thaw the earth, I’m in heaven. The heat brings so much life and here in San Diego it means spending much more time outside.
The Fruit. Berries of every variety. Pineapple and mango. Citrus. Grapes. Everything that brings on the sweet summer flavors.
Longer Days. Let’s face it, the winter months are slightly depressing. The lack of sunshine takes its toll on our perception of time. Having hours of sunlight still ahead of me after I leave work fools me into feeling as though I actually have more time to accomplish all the wonderful things I want to do that day.
Summer Nights. Bonfires. Movies in the Park. Casual gatherings with friends. Along the lines of feeling like I have more time in my day, I find the summer is filled with more evening activities. The break from the usual schedule is welcomed and very much so enjoyed.
The Beach. Living by the beach, I find my way to the sand throughout the year. However, the summer is when I can really enjoy taking a quick dip and drying off in the ocean breeze.
Summer Movies. They are called Summer Blockbusters for a reason. The best movies come out in summer, from comedies to comic action films. There’s always a big exciting new movie to go see.
Rosé. Okay, I know you can drink rosé year round, but it seems so much more satisfying chilled while sitting on the patio soaking up the final rays of the day while enjoying a good book.
And now I’m off to do just that. Cheers to the rest of your weekend!
Well, June Gloom has officially settled into the California coast, bringing lots of clouds, humidity, and light morning showers. Today, I’m enjoying my usual Sunday routine while basking in the rainy day. Sundays are my quiet days. A day to rest and reset. In fact, this is one of the most true statements about my philosophy on life:
Aside from cuddling, there are 7 things I do every Sunday to recenter myself and bring life back around from the chaos.
Run and Yoga. While I exercise throughout the week, I use Sundays to get in quality sneaker and mat time. Without time constraints, I can really focus on my run and my practice without life’s stresses.
Laundry. All the laundry gets done every Sunday. This keeps us from falling behind and allows me to wear whatever I feel like during the week.
Gardening. I don’t have a green thumb and have a tendency to forget about my plants. I have reminders to water the plants during the week but on Sundays I really tend to them. I remove or trim dying leaves. I harvest herbs. It’s surprisingly relaxing and keeps my garden healthy.
Weekly Cleaning. The chores list sounds long but doesn’t take longer than an hour every Sunday. Vacuuming, mopping, dusting, dishes, etc. all get done.
Meal (Snack) Prep. I used to be the person who did meal prep for the full week but I found I missed cooking throughout the week. Instead, I prep my snacks for the week to ensure I don’t reach for unhealthy options on the fly. This usually means I make humus and divide up veggies into serving size containers.
Family Dinner. While we are only a family of two (plus our furbaby), we are trying to build the tradition of eating a sit down meal together every Sunday. This means at the dining table with place settings. I spend a good portion of the day cooking a more elaborate meal than a weekday meal. It’s a nice opportunity to enjoy the end of the weekend and connect before diving back into our busy schedules.
Pampering. Before heading off to bed, I throw on some guilty-pleasure tv and take time to paint my nails, do a facial, and relax one last time. A little me time really helps settle me down for bed and while small, feels like I’ve really done something for me.
Do you have a Sunday ritual? I’d love to hear what other people do to prep themselves for the week.
Happy Sunday! I hope everyone is enjoying their Memorial Day weekend, finding time to relax and enjoy quality time with those they love. I’m spending mine at home with my husband and pup. I love quiet weekends at home. I typically spend the time crafting and catching up Podcasts from the week. Podcasts are great entertainment while I’m working out too, keeping me focused on the story and not watching the clock on the treadmill. A short list of Podcasts make it into my weekly lineup and they keep me thoroughly entertained. So without further ado, here are my 7 favorite Podcasts.
Stuff You Should Know : Covers a broad array of topics from science to history, explaining how things work or happen.
Lore : If you’re into folklore, you can’t miss this podcast. It’s like creepy storytime.
Bitch Sesh: A Real Housewives Breakdown : Two comedians (plus guests) break down the weekly Bravo Real Housewives shows.
Wait Wait…Don’t Tell Me! : NPR weekly news recap show with a comedy twist (liberal leaning).
Stuff You Missed in History Class : Excellent digs into obscure and interesting historical events and people.
This American Life : Covers stories in modern day America that will make you think.
Planet Money : 20 minute-ish financial topics that will help you expand your knowledge and understanding of personal finance and economics.
Podcasts can be downloaded in a number of places including iTunes, Google Play, and Spotify.
I’m always looking for new ones to add. Share your favorites below.
Happy Sunday, friends! I hope you are relaxing and enjoying, what I hope is, beautiful spring weather. I’m still living in an aloha haze from our Hawaiian adventures. Is it time to go back yet? Ha!
I’m starting off a series called Weekly 7, where I share seven tidbits on various topics. My hope is this will keep me focused on my blog while creating a strong connection to my audience. In this edition, I’m sharing seven random things about me. Hope you enjoy!
I love trying new crafts but cross stitch is my go-to. Cross stitch is a lot like piecing together a puzzle. I love watching the picture come together out of just cloth and thread. Plus, I find the practice to be calming and get my best ideas while cross stitching.
My favorite colors are blue and teal because they remind me of the ocean. The colors show up in every aspect of my life – home decor, wardrobe, our wedding.
I loathe calling in food orders to restaurants. I’m always happy to go pick up the food, but my husband and friends are always saddled with the job of actually ordering.
While I love to read, I’m not the type of person who can get lost in a book. Even if the story line is really engaging, I struggle to turn my brain off and fully exit real life. I’ve always admired those who can be truly captivated by books.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve worked hard to develop a healthy relationship with food and my body. I’m one of those crazy people who wholeheartedly enjoys exercise and prefers healthy food. Insane, I know.
I possess an unusually strong association between music and memories. If I hear a song, I can tell you either a specific memory that I relate to it or at the least, what time of my life I associate with it the most.
The first blog I ever had was a Yahoo! Geocities webpage in 2001. This is also where I learned most of my basic HTML coding abilities. Since then I’ve had far too many blogs to count.